Monday, November 11, 2013

WOW…it has been a while since we have been in touch and a lot has happened. Time for an update!

As many of you might remember, we had an adoption fundraiser on Friday, May 17th. It was a huge success and we are so grateful to our amazing, generous and kind hearted family and friends (YOU!) for the support. We raised about $7,000 toward our adoption when everything was said and done!! This is such a huge help to cover the $28,000 estimated cost!! There is much, much more to that day though… Ironically, as we were frantically getting ready for the fundraiser that night we got a call from our adoption agency with a referral for a sibling pair from far west Ethiopia in a region called Gambela. We couldn’t believe the timing of this! Really?  A referral on the exact day of our fundraiser? After a week of talking through what seemed like the biggest decision of our lives, we said yes to the siblings and then started to program ourselves and Zander and Sienna for a new brother (4) and sister (2) to arrive.
We were extremely excited and it seemed like they were going to be the perfect addition to the family. Five weeks later came a curveball. The Adoption Agency called with some news that their mom had returned to the orphanage where she had dropped them off five months prior and picked them up. We will never know the details of how her situation had changed. One way or another she decided she wanted to raise her children. It was hard news to take because we were so emotionally invested in them but it was also great news. We were so happy that they can be raised by their mom...that is the way it should be. Their little faces will always be in our hearts and we feel so blessed that our lives crossed paths with theirs.
With little time to process and some difficult news to share with Zander and Sienna (who were talking about Wasi and Amira every day), we had barely realized what just happened when the agency called us with the next referral which we accepted immediately. That was June 28th and here we are now. We have been matched with a little girl for a little over four months.  Again, for reasons we may never know, her mother decided she wasn’t able to raise her and the orphanage became the only home she has ever known since that sad, fateful 10th day of her life.  Her story is long, she has been stuck in the system, but timing was perfect to find our family.  It seems meant to be.  She was about 1 and 1/2 years old back in June when we first saw her beautiful little face and she looked so healthy. She is from Mekelle, which is in the northernmost area of Ethiopia, near the Eritrean border.  With cautious enthusiasm we wait.
It is such a paradox in our adoption journey how there is such a deep need to mourn what these children have been through, with no power whatsoever to control their destiny and the harsh impact of poverty on their lives. It is impossible for us to fathom how a mother can make a conscious choice to put her child in an orphanage in hopes that another family will find them and provide them a better life. This kind of desperation, or perhaps courage and strength, is impossible to understand and can’t be fully captured in the written word. On the other hand, we are bursting at the seams with joy and excitement about enveloping her with love, family, home, opportunity, and all the wonders and blessings of our lives. What an emotional workout this is J
Fast forward to today…The process getting our little girl home has been excruciatingly slow but we are happy to share with you that things are finally moving along in the last few weeks. I would be happy to share more about all of this over a beer with any of you. The highlight of highlights in the last couple of weeks was getting a short paragraph from a Denver adoption agency staff that was in Ethiopia and had the chance to meet her. It is the first bit of information we have ever received about her personality…which sounds BIG!
Please tell the Lee's that I want to be their daughter’s god mother!! just kidding. But I love her! She gives kisses. She even kisses {one of the babies}!!!! She loves {one of the babies}. In fact, she is the bossy one in the baby room and is very sassy. She loves to sing and run around. She also is very caring. I was holding {one of the babies} and she kept coming up touching his cheek and kissing him! Just some info to share with the Lees!
My immediate response was that she sounds like the Ethiopian version of our four year old, Sienna….HA! We (including Zander) could be in big trouble with two power-house girls on our hands J